First of all there is no absolute formula for a strong and healthy relationship. Secondly it's not my place to give advice to any couples out there, although in my own experience it takes diligence and hard work along with sacrifices for both husband and wife; each have to share responsibilities in order for the relationship to work.
Don't try to change your spouse's personality or character, because sooner or later, our true self will resurface no matter how hard we tried to be different than who we really are. First, you must be honest to your self and love who you are. This is obviously easier said than done. What worked for my husband and me was the fact that we were always open and honest with one another. We did't have a hidden agenda. Communication is the key role for us.
We had our share of disagreements and fights, but we didn't hold it back. One thing we always tried to do was stay passionate and open. My late husband Patrick always reminded me to never bring our fights with us to bed.
Material things were not important to us. When there is love, passion, understanding and openness between both husband and wife, life is wonderful and exciting and full.
Dedeth Ford (Life of Love for Atema and Atepa)
Author of Life of Love for Atema & Atepa