Patrick was the first gentleman that I received a letter from. After reading his letter I instantly knew he was going to be the one that I will spend the rest of my life with. His words were so humble and his letters were written with such honesty. I decided to commit myself to Patrick and as our correspondence continued, our relationship grew and became more intimate.
The time that followed was a long and winding road. We did not have any physical contact, but we met through our letters which were full in love. These letters were the only way we were able to correspond. Once he proposed through his letters, I was the happiest person that I could imagine. Penning back and forth, the difficulties of being in a long distance relationship began to get more intense. There were rules and regulations that we needed to follow in order to get all of the necessary documents in order to get married while living in different countries. The worst part was that back then, we depended on the postal services to send all the papers and letters and that could take a month before we would receive the necessary documentation. Sometimes a government’s red tape would cause further delays .What made my long distance relationship with Patrick so difficult also had to do with our financial situation -- we were destitute . It ended up taking more than a year before our marriage finalized.
Once we were married we obviously wanted to be together right away. It was such a struggle with days and nights filled with loneliness and emptiness as I could not immediately come to Patrick in the United States. I had to apply for a visa before I was able to come to the States. We were only able to spend ten days together after our wedding before Patrick returned to his home.
Because of Patrick's determination, persistence, love, passion and understanding were the basis of how our marriage endured a life time. Patrick was the love of my life and will always remain in my heart.
Author of Life of Love for Atema & Atepa